Here’s to the Strong Women That We’re Kept Hanging

                                               

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Please stop waiting for him. Please stop hoping that one day when he gets his shit together, he will come back. He will not, and it will not happen. There’s this 1% probability that he may still love you, but he doesn’t love you as much as he does, say 2 or 3 years ago. He will love you less and less each day. If he happens to be seeing someone new, chances are he will learn to love her more and more each day just as he did with you when things were pretty. You don’t have to fight a battle you are not meant to win. You don’t have to put him in a situation that he will need to choose because I tell you, he will choose her over you. If he happens to still send you mixed signals or making you feel like he still loves you, it’s because he is afraid to completely lose you. He’s afraid that you will no longer be there when things don’t work out between him and his new muse. Brutal as it may sound, but you are a reserve. Let’s be logical here, if he really does love you, and you did not fail to make him feel that you want him in your life, you wouldn’t be in your situation now. He will find a way to be with you even if it meant hurting his new muse because he cannot be with someone his heart doesn’t belong to. Men aren’t like women who will endure sadness and regrets, men go after what they want, and you are no longer what they want.

Don’t waste your time and energy on trying to relive the past. It ended for a reason. Don’t waste your 3 wishes with Gennie trying to get back to him. You do not deserve that kind of love. You deserve a love that’s brave enough to fight for you, no matter how risky and uncertain being with you could be. You must learn to accept that you already missed the chances to be together. You need to move on, even if it means losing the chance that someday, fate will work its way to bring you back together. No more what ifs because you have already fought for your love. No more looking back. If he is not doing anything to be with you now, then you should be the loss of his life.

Girl, you are beautiful, smart, and worthy—that is you before you met him, and you continue to be that person even after he left. I hope you realize that. I hope you get the courage to finally let go of the person who can’t give you the love that you deserve. One day, when you least expect it, someone will show you how you should be loved, and you will be thankful for all the heartaches. For now, accept the fact that he will no longer go back, and move forward on your own phase with definitely no regrets. Your heart is strong and resilient. I believe in you, and I believe that someone out there is waiting for you to be available. Someone that you deserve.